How to Motivate Your Unemployed Boyfriend?
- Learn how to motivate your unemployed boyfriend to take a job he doesn't want with these effective strategies.
- Discover ways to defuse your boyfriend's mother and stop the pressure on him until your career advances.
- Find out how to handle the financial challenges of supporting your unemployed boyfriend and the impact on your own family.
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My boyfriend “Paul” has been unemployed since college. I really wouldn’t mind supporting him financially, but I don’t make enough money yet. He doesn’t want to go back to school, won’t take any job outside our industry, and his independent projects never get past the “concept” stage. Lately, Paul’s mother has started belittling him and threatening to withdraw financial support—which doesn’t motivate him, just makes him more depressed. My mother helps too, but I worry my continued dependence on her is forcing her to keep a high-stress job that’s bad for her health and happiness. Without their help we’d be flat broke. How can I motivate Paul to take a job he doesn’t want? Alternately, can I somehow defuse Paul’s mother and get her to stop pressuring her son until my career advances? Alternately「交互に」？とはどういうことでしょうか?あと、defuse Paul’s motherの意味も教えてください。よろしくお願いします
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> How can I motivate Paul to take a job he doesn’t want? Alternately, can I somehow defuse Paul’s mother and get her to stop pressuring her son until my career advances? alternate という語は連続性を感じさせます。「これが済んだかと思えばまたあれをやらなくちゃならない」 みたいな。ここでは alternately という副詞の形で用いられています。 気に入らない仕事はやろうとしないポールをやる気にさせるにはどうしたらいいでしょうか。それと、わたしが昇進して収入が増えるまでの間、ポールの母親がカリカリして、ポールに口うるさく言うのを止める手立てはないものでしょうか。 一方でポールに対する対策、他方でポールの母親に対する対策、どちらに対するアドバイスも求めているので、「ついでに、こちらについてもアドバイスして欲しいのですが」 という気持ちが alternately という語になって表れたのではあるまいかと想像します。 defuse の fuse は爆弾の信管のこと。defuse で 「信管を外す」 となるところから、ここでは 「感情を爆発させるのを抑止する」 というニュアンスで使われていると分かります。
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"Alternately" は、ここでは「代わりに」という意味です。"Alternatively" を使用した方がより適切だったかもしれません。 "defuse" は「（爆発物などを）解除する」という意味で、ここでは「（圧力を）和らげる」ということです。 つまり、"defuse Paul's mother" とは「（仕事に就かないポールに対して何かと口うるさい）ポールの母親から、ポールを解放する」ということです。
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