Attending the Funeral: To Go or Not to Go?

  • A friend's boyfriend recently passed away and the funeral is tomorrow. The friend expressed that she didn't want friends attending the funeral if they were only going for her, leaving the question of whether or not to attend.
  • While the writer had a connection to the deceased through the friend, the main motivation to attend would be to support the grieving friend. However, the writer is torn between respecting the friend's wishes and the possibility of future regret for not being there.
  • With the funeral located several hours away, a decision needs to be made promptly.
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(相談投稿) Hi Carolyn: My friend's boyfriend passed away last week and the funeral is tomorrow. My friend told her roommate that she didn't want her friends going to the funeral if they were going just for her, and I'm torn on whether to go. Although I liked her boyfriend and considered him a friend, my connection to him was through her and I would mostly go to support her. I want to respect her wishes, but I'm also worried that not going is the wrong thing, and that she will look back and be upset I wasn't there. The service is being held six hours away from me, so I've got to figure it out today. -- To Go or Not to Go Maybe it's just me, but I find "her wishes" almost impossible to parse. parseは「理解する」くらいで良いでしょうか?よろしくお願いします

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>parseは「理解する」くらいで良いでしょうか? ⇒そうですね。それも、「彼女の本心を《科学的に》解釈して理解する」といったニュアンスでしょう。




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 parseは「理解する」くらいで良いでしょうか? parse は、下記のように「文法的に説明する」と言った意味です。  これは説明の文が、彼女がこう言った、というのが支離滅裂なのを、「上手に」言っているので、おっしゃる通り、理解する、くらいでしょう。





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