Is an Open Marriage the Solution? My Husband Wants One After My Affair
- After my affair was uncovered, my husband wants to have an open marriage as a condition for staying together.
- I've tried to convince my husband that I am truly repentant and don't want to be with anyone else, but he insists on an open marriage.
- He says he cannot trust me again and doesn't feel obligated to be faithful, and believes that an open marriage is a way to be honest about it.
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A few months ago, my husband uncovered an affair I was having with an old flame. He moved out and initiated divorce proceedings, but in the time since, I was able to convince him that I am truly repentant and to give our marriage another chance for the sake of our children. The problem I have now is that he says that if we are to stay married, he wants it to be an open marriage. I’ve tried to tell him that I’ve gotten that out of my system and I don’t want to be with anybody other than him, but he says there just isn’t any way he can ever trust me again, he doesn’t feel an obligation to be faithful to me anymore, and at least this way we’re being honest about it. ここでのgotten that out of my systemはどのような意味でしょうか？よろしくお願いします
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＞ここでのgotten that out of my systemはどのような意味でしょうか？ ⇒「そのこと（私たちが開放結婚すること）は私の頭になかった」。 (1) get ~ out of one's systemは、「を～忘れようとする、頭から追い払う」という意味です。 (2) open marriageは、「開放結婚、自由結婚」などと訳され、「夫婦がそれぞれの社会生活や性生活を自由に追求する形の結婚」を意味します。
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ここでのgotten that out of my systemはどのような意味でしょうか？ 「私の組織から出した」＞ （もうあなた以外の惰性と関係をも持つとい考えは）私にはこれっぽっちも、チリほども、残っていない
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