How to Handle Discussing Your Department with Your Mentor
- Being paired with a mentor in a different department can present challenges, especially if there is tension between your department and your mentor's department.
- If your mentor is not reaching out to you, it could be due to their busy schedule or their conflicts with your department.
- When discussing your department with your mentor, it is important to remain neutral and focus on your own experiences and goals.
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should it come up
I am a mentee in a "future women leaders" program at my organization. I am paired with a director of a different department. She and I get along very well, but she is not on speaking terms with the director of my department, and has gone so far as to file a complaint against my immediate supervisor, a woman I respect greatly. So far, my mentor has not reached out to me to organize our first mentoring session. Perhaps it is because she is very busy, but I suspect it is also because she is basically at war with my department, going so far as to instruct some of her subordinates not to speak to my colleagues (although they still speak to me). I sent an initial, "Thank you, and I'm looking forward to working with you" email to her upon the human resources department informing us that we were paired together. I have not reached out to her again and haven't heard from her. I am not sure how I would handle any discussions about my department, in particular my supervisors, should it come up. should it come upの意味を教えてください。よろしくお願いします
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should it come upの意味を教えてください。 これは、下記の「仮定法を含んだ if 節の倒置」の例です。 http://eigo-box.jp/grammar/inversion/ ですから「（私の部、特に私の上司についての議論が）もし話題に上ったら（どうしたらいいか分かりません）」という意味でしょう。
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＞should it come upの意味を教えてください。 ⇒「万が一、それ（私の部署、特に上司の話）が話題に上がることになったら」。 ＊should it come upは、if it should come upというのと同じ、仮定法の「格式的表現」です。
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