Is This Fair? When Lending Money to Friends and Family Becomes a Burden

  • Lending money to friends and family can strain relationships, especially when repayment is delayed or avoided.
  • The belief that money lent to loved ones should be considered a gift if you want to maintain the relationship can create emotional distress.
  • The dilemma of whether to confront the friend about repayment and risk losing the friendship adds to the unfairness of the situation.
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his is on me

Dear Sugars, I remember reading, at some point, that you should be willing to give any money you lend to friends and family as a gift if you want to maintain that friendship or relationship. I get this. I've lived by it for a long time. However, I went against my better judgment and lent a friend a lot of money. She said she would pay me back quickly, but now it's been almost a year. I never imagined that she would avoid the topic the way she has, but after I lent her the money, she never mentioned it again. My heart hurts when I think about it. If it were a few hundred dollars I would feel OK with the gift, but this is a big amount of money. Should I assume that if I bring it up with her and ask her to pay me, that I am going to lose the friendship? It feels so incredibly unfair that this is on me. his is on meはどのような意味でしょうか?よろしくお願いします

  • corta
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  • cbm51901
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"this is on me." 「私がその責任(義務)を負っている。」 話者は大金を友人に貸してしまいました。その後その友人は借りたお金に関し一切口に出そうとしません。話者は貸したお金を返してもらうよう、友人に催促すべきかどうか悩んでいます。何故ならそうすることで友情を失ってしまうかも知れないからです。「そもそも、返済責任は友人の方にあるのに、なぜ自分が、催促するという義務を負わなくてはならないのか」、と話者はこのアンフェアな状況を憂いています。




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  • Nakay702
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>ここでのinvestmentはどう訳したら良いでしょうか? ⇒文字通り、「(男友達に)金などをつぎ込むこと」でしょう。 「妻の私が男友達(とのつきあい)に金や時間をつぎ込むことを夫は疑い、いら立っているので、どうしたらいいでしょうか」というような相談のくだりだと思います。





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