What to Do When Your Partner's Career Keeps You Apart
- A 23-year-old medical student struggles with being in a relationship with a Navy serviceman, whose job involves death and killing.
- The couple's communication is limited, and they rarely get to see each other due to military rules.
- The medical student is torn between her love for her boyfriend and the constant worry about his safety and their future together.
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Dear Sugars, I'm a 23-year-old medical student and I absolutely love what I do. There is nothing that would keep me from pursuing this dream. I've been dating a wonderful man for about a year. During that time, we've been incredibly happy as a couple. He is respectful, brilliant, ambitious, kind and hilarious. The problem is, he's now in the Navy and I am the world's worst Navy girlfriend. I have a really hard time with his job involving death and killing when mine is about preserving life. On top of that, because of the way the military works, our communication has become limited, at best. We hardly get to see each other, and when we do, it's entirely controlled by various rules that I don't understand and I'm not used to. My heart aches constantly because I miss him so much. And it's not like there's a light at the end of the tunnel. This is how his career will largely be, and my own busy schedule with 12-18 hour days makes it even harder. It will be years before I ever get to live with him again or see him every day. I don't want to end things — he's my best friend and the best man I've ever met — but I spend so much time missing him and worrying about his safety. I don't want to spend my life missing a man who is seldom around. My heart hurts. What do I do? Signed, Worst Navy Girlfriend Steve Almond: I'm so glad we received this letter and have the chance to answer it, for the simple reason that the civilian culture in the United States and elsewhere really lives in a world where we do not recognize the burdens that are off-loaded onto military families. Not just the risk of injury or psychological trauma; it's absence and the bureaucratic rules when you're trying to move toward marriage and a stable life together that's never talked about. The one thing I would step back from is the idea that your boyfriend's job involves death and killing. The military ultimately defends the homeland, and there's killing and injury and devastation involved with that, but it's a very small portion of the military. More largely, you need to have a conversation with your boyfriend about whether his career is going to make it so that, for years, you are not going to be able to see him every day. There are people who know they're going to be "career military," and you can say yes or no to that. But you have to get a clear account, because if you're as important to him as he is to you, there should be some room for negotiation. whether his career is going to make it so that, for years, you are not going to be able to see him every day. の訳とclear account,の意味を教えてください。よろしくお願いします
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whether his career is going to make it so that, for years, you are not going to be able to see him every day. 何年にもわたり、日々あなたが彼と会えなくなるよう、彼が（軍人としての）キャリア（出世街道）を突き進むことになるのか否か But you have to get a clear account しかしあなたは（事情を）明確に把握しなければなりません [注] get a clear account は get a clear picture と同じような意味を持ちます
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> More largely, you need to have a conversation with your boyfriend about whether his career is going to make it so that, for years, you are not going to be able to see him every day. 「もっと大切なのは、あなたが毎日のようには彼と会えないと状況が何年も続けば、(その結果として) 彼が出世できるのかどうか、そのことを彼と話し合ってみる必要があるということです」 > But you have to get a clear account, because if you're as important to him as he is to you, there should be some room for negotiation. 「とにかく事をはっきりさせることです。あなたにとって彼が大切な人であるのとおなじくらいに彼にとってもあなたが重要な存在であるというのなら、妥協する余地が見いだせるかもしれませんからね」
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ご回答ありがとうございます。make it so that,とaccountは単独でどのような意味になるでしょうか？
whether his career is going to make it so that, for years, you are not going to be able to see him every day. の訳とclear account,を検索すればいい
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