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Should I invite my aunt to my wedding?
- Recently engaged and wanting a happy family gathering for the wedding, the asker contemplates whether or not to invite a difficult aunt who bullies their mother and brother.
- They fear that not inviting the aunt may lead to other guests who are aligned with her also not attending.
- There is a consideration of calling her out on her bullying, but this may cause more difficulties for the asker's mother.
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＃２です。今原文を読んだので補足します。「伯母」は年上なので問題の人物、「叔母」は実母より年下なので他の叔母と仮に使い分けました。 前置き１、私が小さい時伯母は、可愛がってくれ、成人してからは金をくれた。 前置き２、伯母（＋他の叔母）と母（＋私の兄弟）は敵対関係にある。 前置き３、伯母も母も後へ引かないタイプ。 こういう背景で ＞＞１。aligned with her と 「（伯母）側につく」他のおばさん連中。 たぶん「私に楯突くと後が怖いよ、覚悟しな、いいね」などと脅しをかけることを想定してのことでしょう。 ＞＞２。call her out on her bullyingの意味を教えてください。 彼女（＝伯母）が（他の叔母を）いじめないし脅すことについて彼女（＝伯母）を非難する、という意味でしょう。
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１。aligned with her と align with という句動詞は、下記のように「協調する」という意味で、ここでは、「肩を持つ」とか「味方する」という意味です。 https://eow.alc.co.jp/search?q=align+with ですから「その場では伯母の肩を持つ来客」または「そこでは伯母側に回る来客（を敵に回す）」という意味だと思います。 ２。call her out on her bullyingの意味を教えてください。 call out という句動詞は下記の３のように、「（人）を非難する）、「（人に）挑戦する）という意味です。 https://eow.alc.co.jp/search?q=call+out 伯母に「そういういじめをするものではない」と挑戦する（＝目上の親戚にみんなの前で意見する）ようなバカ娘に私を育てたと私の母が非難される」
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- Nakay702
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＞aligned with her とcall her out on her bullyingの意味を教えてください。 ⇒ 結婚式に叔母を呼ぶかどうするか悩んでいる場面のようですね。 ☆ aligned with her：「彼女と一直線に並んで」＝「彼女と仲良くなって」。 ☆ call her out on her bullying：「弱い者いじめをするのに彼女を呼び出すか」＝「彼女（叔母）に来てもらうと、彼女は弱い者（母）いじめをする（ことになるだろうか）」。
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