My 53-year-old stepson's troubled past and current struggles
- I'm writing about my 53-year-old stepson, 'Sam.' I helped to raise Sam starting when he was 11. His first mom was murdered with a handgun a year before. He was already difficult as a younger child and already into drugs, including alcohol.
- My husband and I made mistakes, mostly on the side of enabling. We've gotten some helpful counseling and learned a lot from Al-Anon.
- Sam is smart and kind and sensitive and tends to set himself up to be exploited and codependent, perhaps as a way of buying friends. I ache to see his patterns change, but they are out of my control.
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I'm writing about my 53-year-old stepson, "Sam." I helped to raise Sam starting when he was 11. His first mom was murdered with a handgun a year before. He was already difficult as a younger child and already into drugs, including alcohol. Things got worse. My husband and I made mistakes, mostly on the side of enabling. We've gotten some helpful counseling and learned a lot from Al-Anon. Sam did a little therapy years ago (some of it court-ordered) and used to go to Alcoholics Anonymous, but he doesn't anymore. Too bad. AA helped him. Sam is smart and kind and sensitive and tends to set himself up to be exploited and codependent, perhaps as a way of buying friends. I ache to see his patterns change, but they are out of my control. A few years ago, he lost his house because he didn't pay his mortgage. His dad and I had bailed him out a couple of times, through loans that never got entirely paid back despite the written agreements and careful repayment schedules; the last time, he chose not to tell us he was ignoring the legal notices in the mail. We don't give him guilt trips about the money or mention it or even care, really. It's cheaper than college would have been. But I'm sure he feels a lot of guilt. He's a sensitive and principled guy. Sam now lives in a sleazy efficiency apartment about 10 minutes from us. At least it gives him some kind of community. He is holding down a job, and things seem stable financially. But he has stopped returning his father's texts asking him to get together for breakfast, and there's been no acknowledgment of the birthday check we mailed him last week. (This letter is not about wanting a thank-you note!) A couple of weeks ago, I got my son-in-law to call him and say, "Hey, phone your folks!" He did, and we had the usual upbeat chat. We made a breakfast date. But he ended up flaking on that. 1 helped to raise Sam startingはどのような意味でしょうか？ 2 He was already difficult as a younger childとはどういうことでしょうか？ 3 on the side of enablingはどのような意味でしょうか？ 4 set himself up to be exploitedはどのような意味でしょうか？ 5 made a breakfast dateはどのような意味でしょうか？ 以上、よろしくお願いします
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１。helped to raise Sam startingはどのような意味でしょうか？ （彼が１１歳の時）から始めてずーっと彼を育てる助力をした。 ２。He was already difficult as a younger childとはどういうことでしょうか？ 彼は小さい時から既に問題児だった。 ３。on the side of enablingはどのような意味でしょうか？ enable は、下記のように「～を可能にする」という意味ですから https://eow.alc.co.jp/search?q=enable （「だめ」と不可能にするよりは、なんとか彼のしたいことを）可能にする側に（いた）＞（厳しくするよりは）甘やかした ４。 set himself up to be exploitedはどのような意味でしょうか？ 人に利用される立場に自分を置く ５ made a breakfast dateはどのような意味でしょうか？ 朝ごはんを一緒に食べることにした
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